Codependency Healing Retreat


Break the cycle of codependency with PIVOT’s Codependency Healing Retreat.

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Break the Cycle of Codependency

Tired of giving so much to others that you know deep down you are neglecting yourself? We get that it is hard to prioritize yourself over the people you care about. PIVOT’s Codependency Healing Retreat could be just what you need. 

Held at the serene and picturesque Glass House, our Codependency Healing Retreat teaches attendees to balance their needs with the needs of others. Facilitators use our intensive, evidence-based PIVOT process to promote behavioral change. Immerse yourself in the healing energy of a PIVOT retreat and join the thousands of clients who have learned high-impact solutions for lasting change.

 

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PIVOT’s Codependency Healing Retreat

Our Codependency Healing Retreat is held at the Glass House Retreat Center. The retreat features daily individual and group coaching sessions led by compassionate PIVOT facilitators. Your days will also include yoga, mindfulness meditation, and healthy meals with locally sourced ingredients. The peaceful, natural surroundings of our beautiful Glass House will ground you as you focus on your healing journey.

Our Codependency Healing Retreat will provide you with opportunities to:

  • Challenge thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that contribute to codependency
  • Learn to establish clear and healthy boundaries
  • Practice implementing new relationship tools you can use right away
  • Cultivate healthy relationship dynamics and practical communication skills
  • Develop a support system to encourage and validate your efforts
  • Focus on self-care that promotes physical, emotional, and mental well-being

 

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Testimonials

Life Changing

It’s been a year since I was changing my life at The Glass House. I can honestly say that nothing I’ve ever done to work on “me” has ever produced so many positive, lasting changes in my life. I still look at my “I am MORE than enough” oil painting each morning, and feel like I’m finally in that sweet spot of life knowing that I’ve reached my balance point. In my week at The Glass House, I learned humility, confidence, acceptance and letting go in ways that make me a better man.

‒ Kevin

Clear Path Forward

When my marriage of 29 years ended, I felt duped, discouraged, and unsteady. I also had a feeling of relief and a desire to develop a healthier relationship with myself and others. My path to become a “Healthy Adult” was unclear until my friend texted me after her Glass House Intensive. She wrote, “Friend, here you will find healing. Not just for your divorce, for all of it.” Two weeks later I began my new journey with 4 other ladies at the Glass House. My path is now clear. My heart, my mind, my emotions, and my soul are grounded. I am working with my Pivot Advocate and am building a new confident and compassionate life. And the best bonus? A built-in circle of trust with those ladies from the intensive. I am beyond grateful for Lori Jean and the staff at Glass House.

‒ Kelly K.

You Won’t Regret It

I had tried so many modalities of therapies, intensives, and “you can heal your life” weekends. With all of the other programs, I left on that “workshop high” ready to face the world and my challenges head on, only to be met with the same triggering scenarios and no real application of how to apply these newly learned skills into my life. This led me to feel disappointed and back in the same old problems, challenges, and patterns. My experience with The Glass House was different. Everything I learned was individualized to me and my challenges. They used a curriculum that was easy to use, apply, and understand. After 5 days at the Glass House, I left with more knowledge to get into action than I had in over a decade of therapy. When I returned home, I was able to apply what I had learned and change the patterns that weren’t serving me. As a result, my life changed! Lori Jean was right, people can—and do—change! I will forever cherish the time I spent at the Glass House. It allowed me to open the door to understanding and loving myself in a way I didn’t know was possible. If you are frustrated in your relationships or find yourself repeating the same behavioral patterns, GET to a Glass House Intensive—you won’t regret it!

‒ Carol B.

Far Exceeded Expectations

I came to the Glass House having never before experienced any intensives. I had no idea what to expect other than what my referring friend had to say. The small group size and gorgeous, intimate setting was what first struck me. Nestled upon a hill overlooking the harbor, The Glass House far exceeded my expectations. I greatly appreciated the transparency and reciprocity of Lori Lean, Alicia and the other lovely staff at The Glass House. The fact that every Advocate had, themselves, been through the PIVOT process made me feel less vulnerable, and met with more understanding and wisdom. The comprehensive curriculum was accessible, well-organized, and holistic. Yoga with Deb, paired with teachings from Ekhart Tolle surrounding Pain Bodies was particularly resonant to me, as it rounded-out the intensive spiritually. I walked away from the Glass House with my PIVOT binder and an open heart, ready to put my new understanding of boundaries and expectations to practice. In the weeks following my time at The Glass House, I have been able to apply key touchpoints in the PIVOT process with relative ease. I didn’t read LJ’s book until I came to the Glass House, but it is one I have recommended to many friends since. PIVOT has the power to transform the future of relationship psychology.

‒ Lisa G.

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Our Qualifications

At The Glass House, our curriculum is delivered by a team of highly trained therapists and coaches, each certified in the PIVOT Process. With diverse expertise, our facilitators are carefully matched to clients based on their unique backgrounds and needs, ensuring a tailored and effective experience.

Lori Jean, our founder, spent over a decade refining the PIVOT curriculum before establishing The Glass House. This proven program has transformed the lives of individuals worldwide, addressing a wide range of backgrounds, challenges, and personal stories with consistent success.

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About the Founder

Lori Jean, creator of the PIVOT process, is an author, educator, mentor, relationship coach, and public speaker offering solutions for people having relationship challenges. She is passionate and determined to help others. Lori Jean works diligently to repair and restore relationships with self and others – both personally and in the workplace.

She is a trained interventionist and certified relationship, professional, and bereavement coach. She has facilitated trainings to help clinicians see a different perspective when diagnosing and treating process addictions – love addiction, love avoidance, sex addiction and codependency. Lori Jean was also the Executive Director of Clinical Operations for Five Sisters Ranch, until the founder retired.

My personal journey has brought me to this work. I navigated through most of my life with a feeling of unmet longing. Most of the relationships that I was involved in were incredibly challenging for me. I was constantly boarding what I call “Crazy Train” to avoid uncomfortable situations. This left me feeling isolated and alone in the world. On the outside, it appeared that I was living a successful life. On the inside, I was a mess. Had I been taught a healthy relational model, my life would have had a very different flavor! When I finally understood how to approach relationships from a healthy perspective, my life started to change. I felt for the first time ever, relational freedom.

Looking for more information?

If you’re interested in learning more about codependency and narcissism, you will likely want to explore how these dynamics might shape your relationships and sense of self. Understanding the difference between supportive and self-focused behaviors can give you helpful insights, making it easier to set healthy boundaries and recognize patterns that promote positive connections.

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Frequently Asked Questions

1. Are you experiencing any of the following?

  • Feeling guilty or fearful about setting boundaries
  • Difficulty identifying and expressing your own feelings, needs, and wants
  • A belief that you need to protect someone from their own challenges, pain or consequences
  • An inability to tolerate the way you feel when someone else is unhappy with you, and a driving need to win back their approval
  • Gradually losing your agency and fine tuning your life around someone else’s needs
  • Low self-esteem and chronic negative self-criticism
  • Assuming the responsibility of doing for others what they can do for themselves
  • Being drawn to people who need you more than to people that value and respect you
  • Feeling soothed by sympathy others give you regarding your difficult relationship
  • Focusing narrowly on what they need to change and discounting a need for personal change
  • Staying in unhealthy dynamics out of fear of abandonment or rejection
  • A persistent drive to “fix”, rescue or change someone else
  • Over-apologizing and assuming inappropriate blame to avoid conflict
  • Enabling, covering up for, or minimizing a partner’s unhealthy choices
  • A willingness to compromise your own values when doing so would win the approval of another person
  • You have experienced the people that care about you express concern about your relational dynamics, but they “just don’t understand”
  • Experiencing guilt and confusion about self-care
  • Feeling disconnected, or in denial about the reality of the relationship – often staying based on a fantasy of what it “could become” or what “might happen”

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2. What should I expect at your retreat?

Our Codependency Retreat is conducted at The Glass House, with small groups limited to 6 gender-specific clients. The program offers yoga, meditation, healthy meals, and trauma-informed individual and group coaching.

We focus on high-impact solutions to everyday relationship challenges. Whether you’re working through losing a relationship or letting go of unhealthy behaviors, we will help you identify your needs and set healthy boundaries.

Learn more about our retreats here. 

3. Who should attend a codependency retreat?

Anyone struggling with self-sacrifice, boundary issues, or prioritizing others’ needs over their own can transform their relationships here, single or partnered.

4. How does this differ from therapy for codependency?

Unlike ongoing therapy, our 5-day retreat offers intensive, holistic healing with yoga and reflection, delivering transformative results fast.

5. Can a retreat really fix codependency in 5 days?

Yes, our therapy-driven PIVOT Process acts as a catalyst, refined over 15+ years, and many clients experience transformational shifts in just 5 days.

6. What’s the best retreat for codependency healing?

The Glass House stands out with small groups, 15+ years of PIVOT research, and tailored therapeutic work for rapid, effective recovery.

7. Is it codependent if I just really enjoy helping others?

Having a helpful disposition is not codependence. A defining trait of codependence is that caring for others supersedes one’s own need to also take care of self physically, mentally or emotionally. In codependent dynamics, that tendency to be helpful outgrows it’s purposefulness and begins causing negative consequences to our own well-being.

8. If you really love someone, aren’t you supposed to put them first?

At PIVOT, we believe that the healthiest relationships have mutuality in how wants and needs are attended to – the exception to this is minor children, who should not share the burden of reciprocity in meeting an adult’s needs. It’s perfectly loving and healthy to find opportunities to prioritize the people we care about, and we also want to make sure that we are nurturing relationships where that value is shared.

9. What will happen to my relationship if I change my codependent behavior?

One thing is certain – when we change ourselves, the dynamic of our relationship changes. Different partners respond to this growth in different ways, ranging from frustration to relief. When codependent people reach out for support, the story we usually hear is that staying the same is no longer an option. One of the best ways we can support this shift is by recommending couple’s work (like coaching or in-person intensives) to help better delineate what responsibilities in the relationship are yours, what are theirs and what are shared. When we really understand how the codependent dynamic evolved and why it must change, we can help people move out of blame, shame and fear, and into healthier relational patterns.

10. Can you be codependent with your child?

People can exhibit codependent traits with anyone in their lives, including children. When children are small with little autonomy, it is normal for a parent to prioritize their needs and self-sacrifice appropriately. Codependent parents (of older children and adult children), however, may find themselves:

  • Unwilling or unable to have a rewarding adult life outside of their child
  • Being in denial or minimizing difficult truths about their child
  • Experiencing a driving need to protect their child from natural consequences, or to intervene and prevent discomfort or challenge to their child.
  • Unwilling to have normal healthy boundaries with their child
  • Allowing their child to “win” in order to avoid conflict or problem-solving.
  • Feeling a need to control and micro-manage their child’s decision making, even when they are older or grown.
  • Unable to identify their own needs and feelings by defaulting to the needs of their child and taking on their feelings.
  • Feeling like a victim or a martyr because of the unappreciated sacrifices made for the child.
  • Telling their child what they should feel and think in situations.
  • Feeling devastated when the child fails at something and having it affect the parent’s self-esteem directly.

11. Is it codependent to rely on someone financially?

Dependence is not the same as codependence. Many of us have gone through phases where we have been reliant on someone else for one reason or another. A financially dependent relationship can be healthy if there are common agreements and needs and wants are met mutually.

12. How many clients has the PIVOT process impacted?

We have had the privilege to work with tens of thousands of clients. You can read about some of their experiences here. 

13. Can PIVOT help with my codependency even if I cannot attend a retreat?

Yes, PIVOT offers virtual services in addition to individual and small group retreats. All of our offerings come from the PIVOT curriculum and our clients have success healing their codependency through both ways.

14. Where are you located?

Our retreats are located in Northern California.

15. What airports are nearby?

  • San Francisco International Airport (SFO)
  • Oakland International Airport (OAK)

Both airports are about the same driving distance.

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