Why PIVOT? We meet you – at your convenience – by listening and providing effective insight paired with actionable solutions.
PIVOT coaching is an empowering way to change how you respond to life’s challenges by learning proven techniques and tools, all customized to fit your unique self! We help you achieve your relationship goals using a sequential, relational, and assignment-based approach that delivers real-time results. And, your coach is also there for you after hours when real life happens! Email and text your coach between sessions – your coach (or mentor) who shares only the best advice and solutions.
Based on developmental psychology and personalized to your storyline, the PIVOT coaching process quickly replaces outdated personal growth models as the new way to grow. When you learn how to “pivot” yourself and your life, you break your old, unhealthy relationship patterns, discover freedom and confidence within yourself and move towards making healthier connections. PIVOT coaching helps you develop emotional and relational intelligence. Our clients pivot from fantasy to reality, confusion to clarity, and isolation to connection. The process is truly transformational!
- Do you need help understanding yourself and your relational patterns?
- Do you experience drama and trauma in your relationships?
- Do you engage in and maintain good self-care?
- Do you know what you want and need in relationships?
- Do you know how to express that to others?
- Do you realize when you’re getting on the “crazy train” with harmful habits?
- Do you ever find yourself avoiding connection but longing for it simultaneously?
How you “show up” with others and the relational decisions in life thus far, can significantly impact your current relationships with partners, children, parents, family, and colleagues.
We help you develop an action plan based on your unique storyline. This unique “Go-to” Healthy Adult plan includes establishing and implementing your own internal boundaries and a road map for RELATIONAL ALIGNMENT, which combines rational thinking (THINK), emotional intelligence (FEEL), and healthy actions (DO).
Benefits of PIVOT Coaching for Individuals
- Get your faltering relationships back on track
- Discover and understand your most common relational attachment style (you have more than one)
- Explore and identify what you want and need in your relationships.
- Increase your emotional intelligence (to reduce the drama and trauma). Learn how to find your voice and ask for what you need when needed.
- Understand how to resolve conflict without hurting yourself and others.
- Normalize your cortisol levels to create less stress and increase your joy
- Have more time for self-care, build self-esteem and boost self-awareness.
- Date proactively with success.
- Develop a parenting plan unique for your family.
- Break the cycle of an unhealthy relationship pattern or end a current relationship.
- Create meaningful connections and redefine what is healthy for you.
Menu of Services for Individuals:
Weekly PIVOT Coaching: weekly sessions utilizing the Pivot curriculum, including between session emails, texts, and check-in calls. We offer week-to-week coaching and have gold-star packages for specific life challenges.
Personalized PIVOT for an Individual: An immersive experience may be just right for you. Some people prefer to jump in and address situations privately, quickly, and thoroughly. This option would be optimal if you seek positive growth, have a relational challenge, or time-sensitive crisis. Working one-on-one with a PIVOT coach for one or two days, you learn the PIVOT process and can swiftly “pivot” to a healthier you. Our trained PIVOT coaches guide you through an experiential and personalized process to help you devise high-impact solutions and explore your next best steps. Coaches can work privately with you in your home or at the Glass House retreat center.
Glass House Retreats: We offer several options for a 5-day all-inclusive experience. Learn More Here
Frequently Asked Questions
What is intensive coaching?
This innovative type of coaching entails intensive sessions with a personal advocate to address your specific challenges. The sessions are conducted weekly and the cost per week covers emailing, text messaging, check in calls, and one hour session. You will be guided through our core curriculum which will increase your self esteem and give you the answers you are looking for regarding relationships. By relationships, we are also referring to the relationship you have with yourself! With us, you will be able to achieve immediate, high-impact results that will reframe your mindset and bring about long-term changes in your personal development and relationships with others.
How does the Couples Coaching work?
We offer a Personalized PIVOT for couples which is a great place to start. This is a one or two day immersion into the PIVOT Process to look at the challenges and celebrations and shift the dynamics from confusion to clarity. Couples leave with a sense of reality and a plan to move forward. Most couples do continued weekly coaching for a period of time to assure behavioral change. If a couple can individually attend The Glass House to work on their past relational wounds and trauma in addition to their personalized PIVOT, the positive outcomes are remarkable
How does Family Coaching work?
Similarly to the couples work, The Family coaching also starts as a one or two day immersion into The PIVOT Process to look at the challenges and celebrations. Family members are all given time and space to be seen and heard. The collaboration and contributions of the family brought together to repair and restore family dynamics is professionally guided by a master advocate throughout this process. The results reveal the realities of what is going on from everyone’s perspective and provides a plan to begin to create a healthy family legacy.
What is my attachment style?
The attachment we develop with our parents or caregivers in our early childhood has a profound influence on our adult relationships. This is referred to as our attachment style.
What are the different types of attachment styles based on the PIVOT Process?
Recognizing your attachment style is the first step toward understanding and improving your adult relationships. We look at the attachment lens by the energy you are bringing to various relationships.
- Avoidant attachment. If your common style of attachment is avoidant, you tend to struggle with closeness and intimacy and prefer freedom and independence. Avoidant individuals feel uncomfortable being vulnerable and showing their deepest emotions.
- Ambivalent attachment. Children with ambivalent attachment were confused about their relationship with their caregivers. They crave intimacy and closeness, but often have trouble trusting other people.
- Anxious attachment. If your common attachment style is anxious and disorganized, you show up anxious and distrusting in your relationships.
- Secure attachment. Adults with secure attachment have no trouble getting close and intimate with others. They also don’t mind being independent and don’t worry about being abandoned. This does not mean that they don’t have problems when they are in a relationship with someone who is unhealthy.
Once you’ve gained a greater understanding of yourself and your attachment tendencies, you’ll know what to focus on in order to resolve your relationship struggles. At PIVOT, we can help you by providing emotional intimacy coaching for individuals who want to understand their relational patterns and stop sabotaging their relationships.
How to develop a secure attachment style?
Can attachment styles change over time? While it is true that our attachment style has a crucial effect on our relationships, that doesn’t mean that it has to stay constant throughout your life. So, yes, it is possible to move toward a more secure attachment style in your adult life.
However, building a secure attachment in our adult life will take courage and substantial effort, considering that you have to deal with your deepest wounds and insecurities in order to facilitate change towards healthier relationships.
Luckily, you don’t have to go through this process alone. We offer a choice of personal weekly coaching with a relationship coach matched to meet your needs. We also offer the Personalized PIVOT which is 1-day and 2-day intensives which are done with your advocate in person. For those of you who want immediate results, we have a 5-day relationship retreat at the Glass House.
How to overcome codependency?
At PIVOT, we also work with individuals who show codependent behaviors in their relationships and wish to change them. While overcoming codependency is far from easy, attending a codependency intensive workshop can help you break free from unhealthy patterns.
In order to do something about your codependent behaviors, you will first need to understand what codependency is and how it manifests in relationships.
What does codependency feel like?
The term “codependency” is used to describe a relationship in which one partner is excessively reliant on the other, both physically and psychologically. Typically, the codependent in a relationship will rely on their partner to meet all their emotional needs.
If you’re unsure if you or your partner show some codependent tendencies in your relationship, here are some codependency symptoms you should look out for:
- Feeling responsible for resolving your partner’s problems. Codependent individuals tend to approach their partner’s issues as their own and will try to fix them even when their help is not welcome.
- Having particularly low self-esteem. Feeling inadequate and unlovable is a common trait among codependent individuals. They tend to harbor feelings of shame and guilt, as well as a sense of perfectionism that makes them feel inadequate in relationships.
- Strong tendency to please people. Codependents struggle with saying “no” and tend to go out of their way to please other people and meet their needs, even if that means neglecting their own needs and desires.
- Taking things personally. Because of their low self-esteem and inability to set healthy boundaries in the relationship, any negative comment or remark from their partner can feel like an attack on the codependent.
- Feeling unlovable and fearing abandonment. Unless the codependent is able to meet their partner’s every need and their help is always appreciated, they will feel like they don’t deserve to be loved.
- Intimacy issues. While codependents need their partner in order to feel worthy and lovable, they can struggle with closeness and emotional intimacy out of fear that they will be judged or rejected if they choose to show their feelings.
- Control issues. Codependent individuals are no strangers to manipulation tactics and control issues. Establishing and maintaining a sense of control over their partners is necessary for them to feel safe and appreciated in the relationship.
- Obsessive behaviors Codependents experience obsessive thoughts about their relationships because of their fears and dependency. These obsessive feelings and thoughts can easily get out of hand and prevent them from living a happy life.
If you relate to the above mentioned codependent tendencies, you are definitely not alone. With the help and support from seasoned experts on codependency coaching, you will gain insight into why you are showing signs of codependency by exploring the relationship with your caregivers as well as your previous adult relationships. With PIVOT, change is not only possible – it is inevitable.
What is love addiction?
Many individuals who experience abandonment from a parent or caregiver in their childhood end up craving love and nurturing a deep connection with another person. This behavioral pattern is often labeled as love addiction and at PIVOT, we call this attachment dysregulation.
What does it mean to be a love addict?
A “love addict” is someone who focuses all of their attention to one or more romantic partners, develops an unhealthy attachment to them, and experiences immense pain if the relationship breaks down. Love addicts also tend to:
- Mistake any romantic interaction and sexual experience for love.
- Feel desperate and restless when not in a relationship.
- Be unable to stay alone for too long.
- Choose partners who are emotionally distant, unavailable, or even abusive.
- Neglect their own needs and preference to please their partner.
- Struggle with leaving unhealthy relationships.
- Use sexual experiences as a coping mechanism.
- Rely on sex and seduction as a form of manipulation.
While you may encounter one or more of these signs in any relationship, there is a pervasive and all-encompassing pattern that characterizes the life of love addicts. To them, searching for the ideal person and “falling in love” with them is a top priority, taking precedence over their professional and social life.
How to recover from love addiction?
Fortunately, it is possible to break the pattern of love addiction (attachment dysregulation), no matter how pervasive and troublesome your symptoms may be. Love addiction coaching provides opportunities for facing your core relational wounds and working toward healthier and happier relationships. Recovery from love addiction starts with recognizing the symptoms and understanding where your unhealthy attachment patterns come from.
How to overcome love addiction
Start with not calling it love addiction! At PIVOT, we call this attachment dysregulation. You are not in a conscious state of love and engaged in a loving relationship when uncontrollable emotions are driving the connection. Overcoming attachment dysregulation takes time and commitment. Luckily, with support and guidance from the experienced relationship coaches at PIVOT, your fight in relationships can become an opportunity to gain strength and freedom in your relationships. Here’s how the PIVOT advocates can help:
- They will help you understand your relational attachment style
- They will encourage you to explore your needs and learn how to meet them without external help
- They will teach you to resolve conflicts in a healthy way
- They will help you break the cycle of love addiction by building your self-esteem and awareness
- They will enable you to heal from your old attachment wounds
- They will guide you on your journey to reconnecting with your true self
How to help your relationship?
Love addiction and codependency are about dealing with our old attachment and relational wounds and require a drastic change of thinking if you are to make progress and start connecting with other people in a healthy way.
While it is certainly possible to improve some aspects of a relationship without professional help, having someone to rely on for guidance and support in your time of need can work wonders in helping you overcome and heal from past trauma and damaging relational patterns. Facilitating change from negative and harmful to more positive behaviors requires patience, courage, and time, but the end result is always worth it.
Transform your relationships through intensive coaching & workshops
Whether you’re searching for a way to overcome love addiction or want to find codependency retreats in California, look no further than PIVOT. It is our goal to help individuals who struggle with maintaining healthy relationships by helping them gain insight into their relational wounds and actively work on healing them.
With PIVOT, you can choose how you approach and work on your relationship struggles. In addition to our individual coaching sessions with a PIVOT advocate, you can also attend our intensive relationship coaching retreat for individuals at The Glass House, a residential facility where you can focus on improving your relationships and fostering individual growth in an intimate, comfortable setting.
Whichever approach you choose, you can rely on the professionals at PIVOT to guide and support you every step of the healing process. Each of our programs is designed to provide you with maximum benefits and allow you to bring positive behavioral change into your life. Start healing today!