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Love Addiction Retreat · Northern California

Love Addiction Retreat: Five Days at The Glass House to Break the Cycle

Love addiction isn't weakness, and it isn't feeling too much. It's a pattern that overrides your judgment, and it doesn't loosen through willpower or one more conversation. Five immersive days, a maximum of six guests, and private one-on-one work is where it starts to.

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Cloud cover drifting over the Northern California mountains at PIVOT's retreat setting
1-1
private sessions with your facilitator, not just group time

If you searched for a retreat to understand love addiction, you are in the right place. What you will find here is a five-day retreat at The Glass House, limited to six people, that goes underneath love addiction to the attachment pattern driving it. The pull you feel is not weakness or a character flaw. It is a way of attaching you learned long before this relationship. Five days is enough time to see the cycle clearly, understand what it protects you from, and practice something steadier before you go home.

Length
5 days, Mon–Fri
Groups
Max 6, gender-specific
Individual work
1-1 sessions
Location
Northern California
What it actually is

You can't think your way out of wanting someone who keeps costing you yourself.

Love addiction is a pattern that costs you yourself: the person, the intensity, the hope of finally being chosen becomes the thing you organize your life around. The pull isn't really to love, it's to the relief of being wanted, and to the pursuit that follows when that relief disappears. You already know the cycle. You've promised yourself you were done, and gone back anyway.

That isn't a character flaw. It's a nervous system doing what it learned (we often describe the pattern as attachment dysregulation), and it responds to the right kind of work.

If any of this sounds like you

You don't need every one to be true. Two or three is usually enough to know.

You've left and gone back more than once
The intensity feels like proof it's love
You lose yourself inside the relationship
You over-give, then resent it
You monitor, check, and replay conversations
Being alone feels unbearable, not peaceful
You ignore what you know to keep the connection
Fantasy about the relationship crowds out your life
Your friends have stopped saying what they think
By design, not by accident

You won't be in a room with six people who have your exact story.

Some programs sort people by label. We don't. What our guests share isn't a matching history, it's a pattern that costs them themselves. And that pattern shows itself most clearly in a room of people who are not just like you.

No matching stories

You won't sit in a circle repeating a shared script. Your group is deliberately mixed: different histories, different labels, one recognizable pattern underneath.

Distance you can tolerate

It's almost impossible to see your own dynamic head-on. Watching it in someone whose story isn't yours lowers the defenses, and lands the recognition.

One-on-one is where it opens

The group shows you the pattern. Your private sessions are where you take it apart with a facilitator working only on you in that hour.

In a mixed group you get to watch your own dynamic play out at a distance you can actually tolerate. That's often the moment it becomes real. Your individual sessions are where you take it apart.

How the work happens

See it in the group. Take it apart one-on-one.

1
You see it happen
In group sessions the pattern shows up live: the pursuit, the self-abandonment, the bargaining. Named in the moment, not in hindsight.
2
You take it apart
In your one-on-one sessions you and your facilitator trace where it came from, what it protects you from feeling, and what it has cost.
3
You practice something else
Experiential work and mind-body integration let you rehearse staying with yourself while support is right there, then leave with a plan for real life.

What's included

Five all-inclusive days, so the only thing you have to manage is your own work.

One-on-one sessions
Private time with your own PIVOT-certified facilitator, the core of the week.
Small mixed group
A maximum of six gender-specific guests, grouped by pattern rather than matching story.
Mind-body integration
Daily practices to settle your nervous system, because this pattern lives in the body, not only the mind.
Nourishing meals
Balanced meals prepared for you throughout the week, one less thing to manage.
A private setting
A high-end Northern California home, away from the routines and the phone that keep the cycle running.
A plan to take home
You leave with a personalized plan and PIVOT tools, plus optional coaching if you want support making it stick.

Shared rooms are standard; private rooms are available at an additional cost.

Guest experiences

I finally felt like I was being seen and heard and understood

After my first session at The Glass House intensive, I felt truly understood. Struggling with relationships (leaving unhealthy ones and knowing my needs), I found clarity through the retreat's curriculum. My PIVOT coach supported me through tough times, providing lifelong tools to transform how I approach relationships. I feel the change within myself and highly recommend this life-changing experience to anyone seeking growth.

Jenn R.

Lasting Changes

It's been a year since I was changing my life at The Glass House. I can honestly say that nothing I've ever done to work on “me” has ever produced so many positive, lasting changes in my life. I still look at my “I am MORE than enough” oil painting each morning, and feel like I'm finally in that sweet spot of life knowing that I've reached my balance point. In my week at The Glass House, I learned humility, confidence, acceptance and letting go in ways that make me a better man

Kevin

Life Changing

People get better at the Glass House. As a therapist, I have sent a number of clients into the care of Lori Jean and her Team at Pivot and they ALL had significant life-changes occur during their stay. And then, when I hit with a very difficult time in my own life, I went as well. My experience was exactly like that of my clients, life-changing.

Cindy F., LCSW, Professor and Clinical Therapist
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Frequently Asked Questions

Do you run a retreat only for love addiction?
No, and that's intentional. This work is central to our one 5-day immersive at The Glass House, but we don't split guests into separate love-addiction, codependency, or attachment retreats. Everyone enters the same program and receives an individually tailored experience inside it.
Won't a mixed group dilute my work?
It does the opposite. A room of people with different stories but the same underlying pattern lets you see your own dynamic from the outside, at a distance you can actually tolerate. That's usually the moment it becomes real. Your one-on-one sessions are where you take it apart.
What is love addiction?
Love addiction is a behavior characterized by an intense fixation on romantic partners or the idea of being in love. It often stems from unresolved emotional issues, childhood trauma, or attachment dysregulation, leading to obsessive thoughts, dependency, and difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. Recognizing it as a form of emotional addiction is the first step toward healing.
What are the signs of love addiction?
Common signs include an overwhelming need to be in a romantic relationship, constant thoughts about a partner, fear of abandonment, sacrificing personal needs for the relationship, and repeating patterns of unhealthy or codependent relationships. If you find yourself feeling anxious when not with your partner or struggling to be alone, these could be indicators of love addiction and can lead to significant emotional distress.
Is love addiction a real diagnosis?
It isn't a formal clinical diagnosis, and you don't need one to come. It's a widely used name for a pattern of compulsive pursuit, fantasy, and self-abandonment in relationships. We work with what's actually happening in your life rather than with a label.
Who is a love addiction retreat for?
Our retreat is designed for individuals who are struggling with unhealthy relationship patterns, whether they are single, in a relationship, or dealing with past traumas that affect their ability to form secure attachments. It’s particularly helpful for those who recognize signs of love addiction, such as obsessive behaviors, fear of abandonment, having trouble being alone relationally, or difficulty setting boundaries.
How much individual attention will I get?
This is our biggest difference. Groups are capped at six gender-specific guests, and you have private one-on-one sessions with your own facilitator throughout the week. Very few retreats offer that ratio.
What if I'm still in the relationship?
Many guests arrive still in it, or in the middle of leaving and returning. You won't be told what to decide. The work is about seeing the pattern clearly enough that the decision stops being made for you by the pull.
Who facilitates the retreat?
The retreat is led by highly-trained and certified relationship coaches with extensive experience in attachment theory, therapeutic processes, and personal development. These facilitators are trained to guide participants through the healing process with compassion and expertise to help catalyze your behavioral change.
How long is the retreat and where is it?
Five days, Monday through Friday, in a private high-end setting in Northern California.
What is the cost?
For detailed pricing please contact us directly. We understand that investing in your healing is a significant decision, and we’re here to help you find the best option for your needs.
How can I register for the retreat?
To register immediately, please complete our Confidential Questionnaire or call us at 1-855-452-0707. Our team will guide you through the next steps, discuss availability, and help you get started on your journey toward healthier relationships.
How many clients has the PIVOT Process impacted?
We have had the privilege to work with tens of thousands of clients. You can read about some of their experiences here.

Looking for more information?

If you're wondering about love addiction and narcissism, you might want to explore how intense attachment and self-focused behaviors can shape relationships. Learning about these patterns can help you understand what makes a connection feel healthy, giving you the tools to build more balanced, fulfilling bonds.

Find out more about Love Addiction & Narcissism →
The Glass House, PIVOT's private retreat home in Northern California, at dusk
The Glass House · Northern California

This is where that change happens.

Attachment dysregulation thrives on routine and access. The Glass House interrupts both: five immersive days in a private Northern California home, focused on the patterns underneath.

5 days · no more than six guests · all-inclusive

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You've tried leaving on your own. Try not doing it alone.

One free call with our Director of Client Services. We'll tell you honestly whether this retreat is right for you, and answer every question about who else will be there.

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