Love Addiction Retreats

PIVOT’s Love Addiction Retreat will help you kickstart the healing process and break the cycle of unhealthy relationship patterns.

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Our Love Addiction Retreat Will Help You Turn Things Around

Much like substance use disorder or other common addictions, some people develop a pathological condition involving romantic love. While sometimes called love addiction, at PIVOT, we find this behavioral pattern is more aptly termed attachment dysregulation. Join the thousands of clients who have turned their lives and relationships around with the PIVOT Love Addiction Retreat.

At our private retreat house in Northern California, expert facilitators will guide you through our specialized curriculum, supporting your journey with individual and small-group therapy, healthy prepared meals, yoga, and meditation.

Find a Clear Path to Lasting Change at Our Love Addiction Retreat

PIVOT’s Love Addiction Retreat allows you to step back and analyze the connections in your life and the behaviors that affect those connections. The PIVOT Process gives you a clear path to:

Learn about yourself and your attachment styles
Release the parts of yourself that are sabotaging relationships
Heal emotional wounds and achieve balance
Understand what you want/need from relationships
Increase self-awareness and confidence
Set clear boundaries
Develop healthy coping mechanisms
Communicate effectively and honestly with others

Testimonials

Life Changing

People get better at the Glass House. As a therapist, I have sent a number of clients into the care of Lori Jean and her Team at Pivot and they ALL had significant life-changes occur during their stay. And then, when I hit with a very difficult time in my own life, I went as well. My experience was exactly like that of my clients, life-changing.

‒ Cindy F., LCSW, Professor and Clinical Therapist

Wholeheartedly Saved My Life

The PIVOT curriculum and coaches have wholeheartedly saved my life. When I started my coaching sessions, my life was in shambles, and I was starting over.

Because of this curriculum I have been able to successfully live my life as a healthy adult. The tools this program has given me have helped me grow personally, professionally, and spiritually over the past year. The investment I have made in myself through PIVOT is invaluable and the best choice I could have made for myself.

‒ Courtney H.

Without a doubt I found what I was searching for, and much more

Full disclosure, before attending The Glass House I was already seeing a conventional therapist. I was raised in an environment where therapy was looked at in a negative light, and it was not a way to solve problems or cope with them. My experience with a conventional therapist was a great start and helped build a foundation for what came next. Although I was receiving some benefits, I felt I needed more, that there was something missing, and then I found the Glass House retreat.

At the Glass house, we did multiple therapy styles, including taking a deep dive into your mind exploring the “parts of self” you are likely unaware of. I can say without a doubt I found what I was searching for, and much more. I find myself to be an “all or nothing” kind of person, so the 5-day intensive Glass House experience was the perfect choice, and well worth it. The house is beautiful with an amazing view, paired with exceptional food tailored to your nutritional needs, with any food allergies considered. The coaches are paired with each person based on their individual needs. Throughout this experience, I was forming bonds with coaches, housemates, and even myself. I am currently still working with the same coach who I met during my experience at the Glass House on a weekly basis, getting a deeper understanding of myself in the whole perspective. To everyone reading this I encourage you to take the first step and enjoy the journey ahead.

‒ Lawrence Stitley

Far exceeded my expectations

It was my first intensive and far exceeded my expectations. I learned so much about myself and my patterns. I would recommend exploring and learning the PIVOT process to anyone who wants to do the work.

‒ Pam S.

Our Qualifications

At The Glass House, the curriculum is taught by therapists and coaches who are PIVOT advocates and have been trained and certified in the PIVOT process. They have various backgrounds which are considered when we match advocates with our clients.

Our founder, Lori Jean, developed and matured the curriculum over ten years before starting The Glass House. Our program has been successful for people from all around the world coming from different backgrounds, situations and storylines.

About the Founder

Lori Jean, creator of the PIVOT process, is an author, educator, mentor, relationship coach, and public speaker offering solutions for people having relationship challenges. She is passionate and determined to help others. Lori Jean works diligently to repair and restore relationships with self and others – both personally and in the workplace.

She is a trained interventionist and certified relationship, professional, and bereavement coach. She has facilitated trainings to help clinicians see a different perspective when diagnosing and treating process addictions – love addiction, love avoidance, sex addiction and codependency. Lori Jean was also the Executive Director of Clinical Operations for Five Sisters Ranch, until the founder retired.

My personal journey has brought me to this work. I navigated through most of my life with a feeling of unmet longing. Most of the relationships that I was involved in were incredibly challenging for me. I was constantly boarding what I call “Crazy Train” to avoid uncomfortable situations. This left me feeling isolated and alone in the world. On the outside, it appeared that I was living a successful life. On the inside, I was a mess. Had I been taught a healthy relational model, my life would have had a very different flavor! When I finally understood how to approach relationships from a healthy perspective, my life started to change. I felt for the first time ever, relational freedom.

Frequently Asked Questions

How To Tell If I Have Love Addiction?

Love addiction can manifest itself in a variety of ways. In general, love addicts tend to express obsessive or compulsive behavior when love is concerned. Here are some of the most common signs of love addiction:

Mistaking relationship intensity and excitement for lasting intimacy
Inability to be without a relationship
Constantly searching for new romantic partners, even if already in a relationship
Feeling desperate and alone when not in a relationship
Trying desperately to please the partner when in a relationship
Being unable to maintain intimate relationships once the excitement wanes
Taking extreme measures to avoid abandonment and pain
Trading physical intimacy for love
Choosing emotionally unavailable partners
Going against personal values to please a partner
Feeling isolated from family and neglecting them to seek romantic relationships
Tolerating high-risk behaviors in partners
Relying on manipulation and seduction to keep a partner
Dealing with trust issues and hidden pain
Relying on romantic relationships and sex to avoid pain and improve mood

If you feel like many or some of these symptoms apply to you, don’t hesitate to contact PIVOT and learn more about our love addiction retreat.

What Causes Love Addiction?

In most cases, love addiction tendencies relate to early childhood experiences. Love addiction or attachment dysregulation are learned survival patterns that are created when an individual tries to deal with abandonment wounds inflicted in childhood.

If your early childhood relationships didn’t meet your emotional needs, there’s a greater chance that you’d exhibit some of the tendencies associated with love addiction. Some possible causes of attachment dysregulation include:

Parental divorce
Parental substance abuse
Being adopted
Losing a parent or a sibling when young
Abuse and neglect
Emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers
Lack of validation from parents or caregivers

When you grow up with parents who fail to meet your needs or have an unhealthy relationship with each other, your approach to relationships may become distorted. Love addiction develops when you adopt coping skills to deal with your childhood wounds. In a love addiction workshop, you can learn to identify the core survival patterns you adopted and work to alter them to facilitate healing.

How To Get Over Love Addiction?

If you’re struggling with attachment dysregulation and wish to facilitate positive change in your relationships, know that you are not alone. With time and effort, you can improve the way you relate to others and heal your core emotional wound. Once you begin to understand where your pain and abandonment fears are coming from, you will be able to start your journey to recovery. If you are open to change and find the support you deserve, you will learn how to overcome love addiction and create healthy relationship patterns.

What Are Some Love Addiction Coping Skills?

Dealing with love addiction can be difficult, but it is far from impossible. In our love addiction retreat, we help our clients develop healthy coping mechanisms that shift their view on relationships, establish personalized boundaries, and achieve emotional balance, Here are some helpful tips for you to try:

Take a step back and observe your behavioral patterns. Write down your thoughts and be honest with yourself. Try to identify your unhealthy patterns and refrain from engaging in romantic interactions for a while unless you are in a committed relationship.
Identify common themes in the way you relate to others. How do your adult relationship choices relate to your childhood experiences? Are there any similarities you are able to discern?
If you are currently single, make sure you take an honest look at yourself before entering new relationships. With professional guidance, you can improve your self-esteem and recognize yourself as a person worthy of love and affection.
Learn to love yourself how you’d like to be loved. Take responsibility for your own happiness and failures and hold yourself accountable.
Create a daily plan and try to stick to it. There will always be times of loneliness, sadness, and frustration, but you can learn to overcome your hardships by developing and maintaining appropriate self-love mechanisms.
Try to accept that relationships are imperfect and that loving yourself for who you are is the only way to establish lasting connections with others.
Get help immediately if you are experiencing dark thoughts and unable to show up for the rest of your life due to a break-up.

How Long Does Love Addiction Withdrawal Last?

How long love addiction withdrawal tends to last is one of the most common questions among people considering a love addiction coping skills workshop. This is perfectly understandable, as love addiction withdrawal can be a painful experience for many.

The truth is, the duration of love addiction withdrawal tends to vary greatly from one person to the next. Some individuals experience rapid decrease in withdrawal symptoms, while others take longer to truly heal. How long the symptoms last for you may depend on the recovery path you choose and your specific situation. In general, attending a love addiction retreat and seeking guidance from an experienced professional who understands attachment dysregulation can significantly speed up the healing process.

What Should I Expect From A Love Addiction Retreat?

If you are looking for a way to learn effective love addiction coping skills, attending a PIVOT retreat or workshop may be the ideal choice for you. Our dedicated and compassionate PIVOT Advocates will work with you to help you understand your attachment wounds, release the parts of yourself that keep you from having healthy relationships, and learn how to set healthy boundaries. In addition to the workshop, you have access to continue the healing process with your coach for an extended period of time.

Instead of relying on their past survival patterns, our clients will learn how to rely on the parts of themselves that help them establish and maintain lasting connections with others. If you choose to rely on the PIVOT Process, we can help you achieve lasting behavioral change and find happiness and balance in your life.

Interested in learning more about our love addiction retreat? Speak with a PIVOT Advocate today and start your path to healing.