Thousands Of People Have Used The PIVOT Process To Overcome Love Addiction
Our Repair & Restore Retreat will help you begin to think better, feel better, and live better. If you are struggling with challenging relationships, learn more about how an upcoming retreat can help you overcome love addiction.
What is love addiction?
Love addiction, also known as Attachment Dysregulation, is a condition that consists of someone having an obsessive behavior towards another person. It is typically created by adopting survival patterns to tolerate feelings of abandonment or neglect which could result in anxiety and depression. These feelings usually leave the person feeling relationally challenged with people and when relationships don’t work, they experience relational withdrawal.
The PIVOT Process
The PIVOT process was created for individuals who are looking to improve their relationships. It provides a new framework and solutions for lasting behavioral change in relationships. At The Glass House, we believe that relational change is possible for everyone and it doesn’t have to be complicated or take a long time. By learning effective love addiction coping skills in our workshop, you can achieve swift, yet lasting change in the way you approach relationships.
Repair & Restore Retreat
Located in Northern California, our five-day love addiction retreat will allow you to:
- Communicate effectively and honestly with others.
- Identify, subside, and respect your core relational wound.
- Define and understand your attachment style.
- Release the parts of yourself that are sabotaging relationships.
- Repair broken relationships with self and others.
- Set healthy relatable boundaries.
Guests will also embody the parts of self that are useful to create and maintain healthy relationships and experience operating from what we call the “Healthy Adult” which will empower them to fully step into participating in their own behavioral change.
At The Glass House, the curriculum is taught by therapists and coaches who are PIVOT advocates and have been trained and certified in the PIVOT process. They have various backgrounds which are considered when we match advocates with our clients.
Our founder, Lori Jean, developed and matured the curriculum over ten years before starting The Glass House. Our program has been successful for people from all around the world coming from different backgrounds, situations and storylines.
About the Founder
Lori Jean, creator of the PIVOT process, is an author, educator, mentor, relationship coach, and public speaker offering solutions for people having relationship challenges. She is passionate and determined to help others. Lori Jean works diligently to repair and restore relationships with self and others – both personally and in the workplace.
She is a trained interventionist and certified relationship, professional, and bereavement coach. She has facilitated trainings to help clinicians see a different perspective when diagnosing and treating process addictions – love addiction, love avoidance, sex addiction and codependency. Lori Jean was also the Executive Director of Clinical Operations for Five Sisters Ranch, until the founder retired.
My personal journey has brought me to this work. I navigated through most of my life with a feeling of unmet longing. Most of the relationships that I was involved in were incredibly challenging for me. I was constantly boarding what I call “Crazy Train” to avoid uncomfortable situations. This left me feeling isolated and alone in the world. On the outside, it appeared that I was living a successful life. On the inside, I was a mess. Had I been taught a healthy relational model, my life would have had a very different flavor! When I finally understood how to approach relationships from a healthy perspective, my life started to change. I felt for the first time ever, relational freedom.
Frequently Asked Questions
How To Tell If I Have Love Addiction?
Love addiction can manifest itself in a variety of ways. In general, love addicts tend to express obsessive or compulsive behavior when love is concerned. Here are some of the most common signs of love addiction:
- Mistaking relationship intensity and excitement for lasting intimacy
- Inability to be without a relationship
- Constantly searching for new romantic partners, even if already in a relationship
- Feeling desperate and alone when not in a relationship
- Trying desperately to please the partner when in a relationship
- Being unable to maintain intimate relationships once the excitement wanes
- Taking extreme measures to avoid abandonment and pain
- Trading physical intimacy for love
- Choosing emotionally unavailable partners
- Going against personal values to please a partner
- Feeling isolated from family and neglecting them to seek romantic relationships
- Tolerating high-risk behaviors in partners
- Relying on manipulation and seduction to keep a partner
- Dealing with trust issues and hidden pain
- Relying on romantic relationships and sex to avoid pain and improve mood
If you feel like many or some of these symptoms apply to you, don’t hesitate to contact PIVOT and learn more about our love addiction retreat.
What Causes Love Addiction?
In most cases, love addiction tendencies relate to early childhood experiences. Love addiction or attachment dysregulation are learned survival patterns that are created when an individual tries to deal with abandonment wounds inflicted in childhood.
If your early childhood relationships didn’t meet your emotional needs, there’s a greater chance that you’d exhibit some of the tendencies associated with love addiction. Some possible causes of attachment dysregulation include:
- Parental divorce
- Parental substance abuse
- Being adopted
- Losing a parent or a sibling when young
- Abuse and neglect
- Emotionally unavailable parents or caregivers
- Lack of validation from parents or caregivers
When you grow up with parents who fail to meet your needs or have an unhealthy relationship with each other, your approach to relationships may become distorted. Love addiction develops when you adopt coping skills to deal with your childhood wounds. In a love addiction workshop, you can learn to identify the core survival patterns you adopted and work to alter them to facilitate healing.
How To Get Over Love Addiction?
If you’re struggling with attachment dysregulation and wish to facilitate positive change in your relationships, know that you are not alone. With time and effort, you can improve the way you relate to others and heal your core emotional wound. Once you begin to understand where your pain and abandonment fears are coming from, you will be able to start your journey to recovery. If you are open to change and find the support you deserve, you will learn how to overcome love addiction and create healthy relationship patterns.
What Are Some Love Addiction Coping Skills?
Dealing with love addiction can be difficult, but it is far from impossible. In our love addiction retreat, we help our clients develop healthy coping mechanisms that shift their view on relationships, establish personalized boundaries, and achieve emotional balance, Here are some helpful tips for you to try:
- Take a step back and observe your behavioral patterns. Write down your thoughts and be honest with yourself. Try to identify your unhealthy patterns and refrain from engaging in romantic interactions for a while unless you are in a committed relationship.
- Identify common themes in the way you relate to others. How do your adult relationship choices relate to your childhood experiences? Are there any similarities you are able to discern?
- If you are currently single, make sure you take an honest look at yourself before entering new relationships. With professional guidance, you can improve your self-esteem and recognize yourself as a person worthy of love and affection.
- Learn to love yourself how you’d like to be loved. Take responsibility for your own happiness and failures and hold yourself accountable.
- Create a daily plan and try to stick to it. There will always be times of loneliness, sadness, and frustration, but you can learn to overcome your hardships by developing and maintaining appropriate self-love mechanisms.
- Try to accept that relationships are imperfect and that loving yourself for who you are is the only way to establish lasting connections with others.
- Get help immediately if you are experiencing dark thoughts and unable to show up for the rest of your life due to a break-up.
How Long Does Love Addiction Withdrawal Last?
How long love addiction withdrawal tends to last is one of the most common questions among people considering a love addiction coping skills workshop. This is perfectly understandable, as love addiction withdrawal can be a painful experience for many.
The truth is, the duration of love addiction withdrawal tends to vary greatly from one person to the next. Some individuals experience rapid decrease in withdrawal symptoms, while others take longer to truly heal. How long the symptoms last for you may depend on the recovery path you choose and your specific situation. In general, attending a love addiction retreat and seeking guidance from an experienced professional who understands attachment dysregulation can significantly speed up the healing process.
What Should I Expect From A Love Addiction Retreat?
If you are looking for a way to learn effective love addiction coping skills, attending a PIVOT retreat or workshop may be the ideal choice for you. Our dedicated and compassionate PIVOT Advocates will work with you to help you understand your attachment wounds, release the parts of yourself that keep you from having healthy relationships, and learn how to set healthy boundaries. In addition to the workshop, you have access to continue the healing process with your coach for an extended period of time.
Instead of relying on their past survival patterns, our clients will learn how to rely on the parts of themselves that help them establish and maintain lasting connections with others. If you choose to rely on the PIVOT Process, we can help you achieve lasting behavioral change and find happiness and balance in your life.
Interested in learning more about our love addiction retreat? Speak with a PIVOT Advocate today and start your path to healing.