If PIVOT Can Work For Me, It Can Work for Anyone
As a guy, I struggled, going from one unfulfilling relationship to another. For years I was certain that I was just with the “wrong” woman. Meanwhile I’m raising a teenage daughter trying to model and teach her what it means to be in a real relationship.
As the years passed I could feel deep inside me the desire to be in a real relationship where, as a man, I could open up fully and find strength AND vulnerability. Alas, I didn’t know how.
I tried numerous approaches to get to what the issue was and never found one that would engage both my head AND my heart. I started Lori Jean’s PIVOT process with equal amounts of skepticism and desperation.
Working with my advocate, I fully threw myself into the work when I saw, early into it, that it was MY patterns that were blocking me. When I took responsibility for it and started the work all of my relationships started to change. PIVOT describes things in simple, understandable terms that allow a clear path from my head (thoughts) to my heart (feelings) to my feet (actions).
I’m a great example as a guy to show that if it can work for me, it can work for anyone, as long as we do the work. I wholeheartedly recommend LJ and PIVOT if you are ready to rocket to a new level of relating in your life.
For the very first time in my life I actually like me. The intense and lonely pain of my childhood is replaced by the healthy adult…for the first time in my life, I have a voice!
It was a life changing event and I’m so grateful I dug deep to find the courage to change my life! Thank you Lori Jean for this incredible experience.
Wholeheartedly Saved My Life
The PIVOT curriculum and coaches have wholeheartedly saved my life. When I started my coaching sessions my life was in shambles and I was starting over.
Because of this curriculum I have been able to successfully live my life as a healthy adult. The tools this program has given me have helped me grow personally, professionally, and spiritually over the past year. The investment I have made in myself through PIVOT is invaluable and the best choice I could have made for myself.
I Feel Empowered
Prior to working with my coach at PIVOT, I only knew a life of emotional turmoil. I had low emotional intelligence due to previous experiences of unhealthy relational patterns. I knew a life that consisted of triggers and impulses, which resulted in acting out in ways that were destroying me in all aspects of my life.
The curriculum taught me how to understand these patterns and show up in my life as a healthy adult. Through our weekly phone coaching sessions, the model presented to me gave me the incentive to continue to grow and learn ways to love myself through self-care.
I learned ways to set boundaries with individuals in my life in order to avoid losing myself at the expense of pleasing others. I now can say that I am able to show up and relate healthy in not only my personal life but also professional life.
I am now able to discern healthy vs. unhealthy. I can honestly say that this was the first experience that has enabled me to feel empowered.
My Advocate Has Been Unbelievable
As someone that grew up around all the ‘woo’ in LA, it takes a lot to convince me of programs, therapies and self-work that is truly productive and healing. I’ve tried all the dbts, cbts, trauma therapy, traditional talk therapy etc., and none felt like they were doing anything except forcing me to slowly rehash issues I already knew. The PIVOT program is completely different because it meets you where you are and gives you proactive steps towards adjusting your current habits and helping you find healthier patterns for your coping and attachment patterns. My advocate has been unbelievable with a penchant for getting to the real crux of the issue from the get-go. She is non-judging, supportive and intuitive, yet calls you out on the things you need calling out on. She gives you tools and resources to do things yourself with the knowledge that she is there should you need her. She helped me reach a place in 8 months that I couldn’t reach in over a decade of other therapies. I have sent a handful of friends to her and PIVOT and everyone feels the same life game changer and I have my advocate to thank for that. When you’re truly ready to take an honest look at yourself and put in the work this is the best and most underrated program around, I can’t say enough good things about it and my advocate.
Recognize Unhealthy Patterns
I had hit rock bottom in my life. Sifting through the devastation of ANOTHER failed relationship I was introduced to my advocate through a mutual friend. When she mentioned “relationship coach” I cringed and said no way, the last thing I need is another failed relationship! My friend assured me that this coaching was about how to find a healthy connection when the time was right and work on my self and my unhealthy pattern in the mean time. My advocate came highly recommended by a trusted friend and after speaking with her for the initial consultation I felt confident that she understood me and could offer help. My advocate was so supportive and compassionate! She helped me be kinder to myself and recognize unhealthy relational patterns that were really destructive, but most importantly she honored my process and met me where I was in my healing. I never felt pressure to get better faster. This patience and compassion was just what I needed. My advocate never gave up on me, even when I gave up on myself.
The most transformative part of PIVOT for me was the boundaries I was able to set and the respect I now have for myself. The program works! I’m not ready to date yet, but I feel confident that when I am I will have the discernment to protect myself, and honor myself. I would absolutely recommend this program and my advocate to anyone looking for positive change. My advocate changed my life, she is an angel. I couldn’t have done this work without her! She is one of the most kind, compassionate and loving humans I know. I will be forever grateful for her wisdom and support.
Build My Sense Of Self
I found PIVOT at a time in my life when I wasn’t sure I was ever going to be able to trust myself to date again. After a messy divorce and a crash and burned relationship, I was scared that maybe I was destined for crazy relationships. My PIVOT coach stepped in and helped me build my sense of self. I started PIVOT because I wanted to know what a healthy relationship was, but what I have gotten is something so much better: I trust myself. I have learned, through the targeted curriculum and sharp insight and unwavering support of my Advocate, that I can trust myself. I am standing in my power as a whole human being for the first time in my life. In just 3 months, PIVOT completely rearranged my self esteem and my understanding of my relationships. Out of that space, I know that I will never go back to the craziness and that I am secure enough to live my life with dignity and self-respect. Thank you Robin!! Thank you PIVOT!
PIVOT is a Godsend and there aren’t enough words to can convey how grateful I am to have found their program and also to be working with my amazing coach, Rose. Prior to working the program, I had been in various 12-step programs which was/is helpful, and seeing a therapist, too. However, it’s only until I started working PIVOT did I see an immense change in my emotions, behavior, and the ability to identify why my I’m being activated and where it is coming from. Like any self-help, it takes a lot of courage, willingness and patience to be able to look at yourself and want to change, but it is so worth it. I would not have been able to get to where I am emotionally today without Rose’s guidance and the wonderful modules provided. Rose is understanding, helpful, non-judgmental and offers levity to boot which is necessary when you’ve hit bottom. I encourage anyone to try this program if you are willing to dare greatly. You won’t regret it
Take Care Of Myself
I have been working at PIVOT on and off for about 2.5 years. PIVOT really has given me the tools and the support I am not able to just get from therapy. I have gained tools for how to take care of myself, relate to things in my life and discover patterns that are holding me back in my life. I recently was at stuck point going to several therapist, support groups and not knowing what was best for me. I did a personalized PIVOT and realized the pattern that was causing me to feel stuck and came up with a plan on how to PIVOT out of it and jump start my new self care schedule. It has been an adjustment but I am SO thankful for PIVOT. I’m now gaining the tools that I need to be able to practically take care of myself, to become emotionally stable, and do life as an adult in conjunction with therapy rather than being dependent on professionals, and that is what recovery looks like for me.
PIVOT is About Being Proactive
Where do I begin to share how much the PIVOT method has improved my life? It all started after I had just broken off an engagement and complained to my friend that I always seem to date the wrong people. She then told me about her dating coach and an upcoming workshop with PIVOT- the Whole Perspective. I signed up as it was very reasonable for the 4 hours – after all, what did I have to lose?
That was one of the best decisions I have ever made! After the workshop I saw how this could work to help me. We started with the dating module and when I realized how much it was helping me I continued on through more modules. Once my family (my parents) saw the difference in me, they asked about working with an advocate too. We are improving our family dynamic every week.
My friends have all made comments about how happy I seem, asking me what have I done or whom have I met – I am so proud to say it is because of me. A recent compliment from a friend: “You seem so confident, together and beautiful. You deserve happiness and peace. And laughter!” and the amazing thing is I believe that too. Even a first date I had a few months ago told me I was quite intimidating being so confident and attractive. It is coming from the inside because of my PIVOT work – something I never heard previously.
I have tried other self help books and plans but to no avail. PIVOT is about being proactive and giving you the tools to change your life for the better. Tired of trying and nothing changing? Then do something and try PIVOT- make a difference!
Greater Health In All Of My Relationships
Deb has been an invaluable resource along my path towards greater health in all of my relationships. Her steady presence, deep listening and clear eyed ability to recognize my relational patterns helped me to see and change things I had been unconsciously doing for years. Her guidance through the PIVOT modules was incredibly thorough, and I feel that the ways she taught me to use my Healthy Adult Alignment worksheet have forever changed for the better how I relate to others. I found Deb’s guidance to be unfailingly compassionate and warm, yet also strong and clear. Thank you Deb!
Become The Person I Want To Be
When I first discovered the PIVOT program, my life had become completely unmanageable. I couldn’t understand why I kept making the same mistakes, and following the same unhealthy life patterns. Rosemary at PIVOT has really helped me turn my life around, and take the steps to understand myself on a deeper level and become the person I want to be. I’m so grateful for this wonderfully supportive program and for having found a PIVOT coach who has been able to help me grow so much in such a short span of time.
I joined an Alumni Coaching group during the first weeks of the Covid-19 shelter-in-place orders. Being a part of this group gave me something valuable to look forward to twice a week and also helped me stay focused on my growth. It was great to connect with other people who have had similar experiences as I had and it really helped me see things from new vantage points, as well. I would absolutely recommend this program.
The Numbers And Photos Don't Lie!
A year after starting my PIVOT work my weight has dropped from 204 to 160. My cholesterol dropped from 225 and now is 135. My blood pressure was 138/96 and now 94/68. WOW!
My PIVOT coach, Cindy, was there with me every step of the way helping. While it wasn’t what brought me to PIVOT, losing weight was one of the goals I’d had for 15 years but was never able to accomplish. Certainly I could not accomplish it rapidly, easily, and alongside all the other drama going on…. HOWEVER the huge amount of understanding, applicable to all areas of my complicated life that came with the PIVOT program made all the difference in my weight loss journey! The improvements on the “inside” definitely helped me make better decisions and take better care of my “outside”!
I didn’t have to follow the same patterns, make the same choices I’d made in the past. All the valuable lessons learned with Cindy “clicked” and my life truly did PIVOT around entirely!
PIVOT felt like the practicum to years of academic research
After a decade of psychotherapy, PIVOT felt like the practicum to years of academic research. With the help of my therapist, I was fortunate to have already acquired a number of tools when I first took part in a day-long PIVOT intensive. PIVOT’s organized curriculum, iconic imagery and relational focus laid out a clear path for me to implement both the skills I had been developing in talk therapy and the Healthy Adult Alignment tools I’d been acquiring from the PIVOT program.
But the opportunity to work with a coach on a regular basis, I believe, is what really made the experience transformative. Deb’s insightful, direct, intelligent and supportive approach to relational alignment kept me accountable, engaged and encouraged–especially during those occasional, yet unavoidable, challenging moments. Her positive energy and can-do attitude in her own life inspired faith in mine; and her honest feedback–while sometimes difficult to hear–created a foundation of trust on which to build our work together. Deb’s thoughtful and caring advocacy (along with the PIVOT curriculum) guided me in responsibly exercising that trust muscle in my other relationships; enhanced my recognition of my own self-worth; and deepened my confidence in my ability to make healthy choices. After a year of working together, I understood the feeling of having someone in my corner, cheering me on, believing in me, and caring about my life and my wellbeing. I feel a mountain of gratitude to both Lori Jean Glass, for carving out this effective program and the curriculum on which it is based; and to Deb Reid for walking beside me on the journey.
I felt true healing, while embracing the "unlearning" of my conditioning from childhood
I started working with Lori Jean a couple years ago with the intention to help heal and repair my family system. After only a few sessions, I started to truly believe that the Pivot process could help me live life more peacefully no matter the circumstances I was faced with. I absolutely love that the Pivot Process is mobile and that I can connect with Lori Jean from all over the world as I am traveling. The truth is Lori Jean has used her years of studying clinically tested concepts to figure out exactly what real life tools that people need by creating the Pivot Process.
During my experience, I felt true healing, while embracing the “unlearning” of my conditioning from childhood. The modules that Lori Jean taught, gave me the tools that I am now able to use in real life situations to ‘PIVOT’ to healthy place mentally. My pivot process still continues to be a life changing journey with each session and I am beyond happy that I have connected with Lori Jean.
I think one of the easiest ways for me to say what Pivot means to me is to explain what life was like without Pivot. Too much of the same old fights and not understanding each other as a couple (Read: resentments, bitterness, hurt, lack of connection, sense of being incomplete) Feeling hopeless in my primary relationships. Feeling misunderstood and unseen by those around me. Lack of my own self-understanding as to why I feel the way I do sometimes and what to do about it to help change it. Pivot resolved (read: changed for the good) ALL of that. Now my partner and I have a much deeper connection, high trust and commitment, more openness and shared dreams. Before we lived as “Semi’s” (Without even knowing it) and now we have steadily experienced being a “Good” for each other and with a little wine, etc. we have even experienced the rare and magical event of truly being one another’s “Inner.” Less fights, more laughs. Less fear, more joy. As for parenting I have far less need to over-step in my kids’ lives and instead just show up and enjoy their presence in my life. If they need me to put on my Wise Elder hat and help them through something, I am happy to do that but am just about as happy not to do that, too. This is a HUGE change for me. I used to worry incessantly about them and over-involve myself in their worlds.
The PIVOT Tribe provided me the opening I needed
Just completed my first 6wk group tribe session with Jenn. Going into the first wk, I really didn’t know what to expect. I’m normally a very “in-person” kind of person but within the first session, you almost forget that you’re on Zoom. I really enjoyed the connections that were formed in the group and the stories we all shared. I Feel as though the Pivot tribe provided me the opening I needed to start working on the areas of my life I’ve been putting off or feeling stuck in.
I enjoyed working on looking at myself from the whole perspective and digging deeper into my survival patterns
PIVOT Group was something I really benefited from the last 6 weeks. It was truly something I looked forward to each week. Our tribe really made a close bond in the short amount of time. I enjoyed working on looking at myself from the whole perspective and digging deeper into my survival patterns. Coach Jenn was so punctual, relatable, understanding and overall an amazing leader. I would recommend this group to others who are looking to become more in tune with relational alignment and boundaries. Investing in myself and finding a coach I can continue to meet with was an amazing gift this holiday season.
I have reached the level of confidence and individualism I knew I had the potential to reach all along
During the spring of 2020 I was fortunate enough to come across a livestream on Instagram with Brittney Kelly and Lori Jean Glass discussing the Pivot program. After listening to the conversation around the pivot process and reflecting on my personal struggles, I took the opportunity to discuss the process in depth with my coach, Deb Reid. While I knew this process would be incredibly difficult as I would be revisiting past trauma and issues, this journey would provide me with a strong foundation to become the best version of myself. The thing that makes the pivot process so special is the honesty, the intentional curriculum, and commitment to partner with you to reach your goals, based on your own standards. Over this past 10 months Deb has provided me with not only an incredible amount of support, but the honesty she has expressed while working this program was key in helping me achieve my goals. The amount of knowledge I have gained not only as tools, but just basic knowledge about who I am has allowed me to transition into a life where I have reached the level of confidence and individualism I knew I had the potential to reach all along.
I have learned so much about myself and the reasons I react the way I do.
PIVOT Tribe gave me the tools to better myself and the relationships I have. Before starting this process my choice of handling situations was not always the best and I would tend to shut down in uncomfortable situations. During this process, I have learned so much about myself and the reasons I react the way I do. I am so grateful for getting the opportunity to take the pivot process through the tribe Kelly scholarship and look forward to continue to grow and be a #healthyadult.
I am now easily able to identify moments I am acting from my inner child or teenager
I initially was exposed to the Pivot Process through a Pivot Tribe and after completing that I knew I wanted to dive deeper with Deb. The Pivot Process and it’s relational alignment has allowed me to gain tremendous clarity in my daily life and the ways in which I relate to and interact with others. Before starting the PIVOT Process, I felt constantly “stuck”. I am now easily able to identify moments I am acting from my inner child or teenager, and thanks to the Pivot Process I have the tools to realign with my healthy adult. It’s a daily journey but I no longer feel like the victim to outside circumstances. I am empowered to be the creator of my relationships and show up as my very best self.
Deb helped me dig deep and get to the root of certain issues. Challenges that I was having that seemed irrelevant to each other, she was able to connect and help me understand where that stemmed from. Throughout the process, I got crystal clear on what I have to offer AND what I want in a romantic partner. My non-negotiables are at the very forefront as I move forward. Deb is extremely understanding, insightful and non-judgmental. She has a wealth of knowledge that gave me so much insight into my life. I SO look forward to our hour together every week. When I hear those I love struggling, I wish I could just give them a Deb and the Pivot Process!! If you have the opportunity to join PIVOT, go for it!!
New ways of self healing
I have completed my Pivot coaching with my exceptional and accessible coach, Deb Reid. I have participated in coaching before and Pivot has made a profound behavioral impact on me and my interactions with others. Identifying my survival patterns gave me new ways of self healing. Walking through my circle boundaries was a game changer and has already impacted my current relationships. Thank you to Pivot and Deb’s gentle lead unveiling these powerful tools I can use on a daily basis to improve myself and those around me.
I'm so thankful
The only regret I have about joining the Pivot Process is that I didn’t do it A LOT sooner! I participated in “talk therapy” for years however, I was repeating the same cycles of emotions and behaviors that ultimately were ruining my relationships. Pivot has allowed me to find not only identify the root causes for my behaviors but healthier solutions. I’m so thankful to have been introduced to my Pivot coach, London, who has guided me through significant changes that have resulted in not only feeling the happiest I have been in my life, but also improving my relationships with others close to me.
Life Altering, Shifting, Grounding!
Clarity has surfaced all around my life with Deb’s coaching guidance in the Pivot Process. I chose to add the kind of support to my life that has gifted me balance, thoughtful consideration with each choice I make, and a healthy perspective to how I think about each situation standing before me. Deb listens effortlessly, and in doing so, clarity is showing up for me in every direction. The doors are all opening and now I will have to choose which ones to walk through instead of where to find the door. The Pivot Process created a way of viewing self and life in such a way that became simple to tackle, rather than impossible to sit with.
All in the Family
While I came here to better my relationships with my children, everything I learned is helping me with all my relationships from business colleagues to other immediate family members to the people in my social circle. Through it all, I am developing a better relationship with myself.
My marriage transformed
Finding Pivot and being mentored by my Pivot coach, London, was life changing for me. Quite frankly it helped me find myself again and because of that my marriage transformed into what I always hoped and knew it could be. The Pivot program equipped me with a plan of action and tangible resources to navigate the ebb and flow of life in a healthy way. For me, Pivot was the biggest exhale after holding my breathe for too long. It also led me to my new life motto: “Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream.” And now that’s exactly what I plan on doing.
I have learned to forgive myself
I contacted PIVOT because I was clinging to a relationship from my childhood, going around the same mountain over and over, causing much emotional pain, and I knew I needed healing and help. My decisions were from fear of being rejected.
I reached out to PIVOT for phone sessions, as I could not travel to California. Deb not only helped me with the relationship that caused me to seek help, (who is now a NO contact), but all my relationships. Using the relationship boundaries, I began to communicate efficiently with family and friends and not over sharing or avoiding them.
I felt heard and seen by Deb and my confusion turned into order with each session.
She helped me to overcome feelings of jealousy and guilt that I had been working on for many, many years to overcome. Deb made space for me to do the work. She helped me grieve the passing of my sister this year, and having someone to share this experience with was sacred.
She taught me it is ok to be honest and speak the truth. And it is healthy to put my relationships in whatever boundary is SAFE for me. 💗💗💗
The one thing I will always remember is “the one you betray is yourself.” I have learned to forgive myself.
I continue to use the tools I learned through PIVOT daily
The weekly coaching after the intensive was integral in helping me understand the PIVOT process at a deeper level and put it to work in my life. Deb understood my particular family situation very well. She was direct without being overbearing, kind and compassionate in her approach and very knowledgeable about all parts of the PIVOT process. She was available when I needed extra support and knew when to help me see that I was ready to continue the PIVOT steps on my own. I am so appreciative of her kind help and expertise; I continue to use the tools I learned through PIVOT daily.
Invaluable skills I will carry with me the rest of my life
I am so grateful to PIVOT and what it’s brought to my life- perspective, clarity, a road to peace. I came to PIVOT lost, confused about myself, my relationship, and my family. I wanted to blow up my life and didn’t know where to go from there. Pausing and learning how to take stalk of myself has given me invaluable skills I will carry with me the rest of my life; incredible tools to be a more grounded, peaceful, clear-headed person. I feel much more empowered to move through the challenges of being a human being in a modern and chaotic world. My coach, Jean, was matched specifically to me, and she guided me through this beautiful, thoughtful, individualized program with incredible compassion, intelligence, and clarity. I’m so thankful, and have recommended PIVOT to anyone who will listen- you won’t regret it!
I realized I had a challenge in my life with how I navigated (and did NOT navigate) relationships, with family and friends. I reached out to a friend about it and he recommended PIVOT. My experience with PIVOT and my advocate has been breathtaking, life changing and one of the TOP BEST choices I have EVER made in my life. I am 62 years old and the #1 best thing I ever did was marry my husband. Following close behind that is having my children, completing college and a Masters in my 40’s AND signing UP FOR PIVOT!! I did not even realize how much internal anxiety I was carrying from my bad habits with navigating relationships. Then PIVOT happened. I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER – SO much stronger – SO much more confident. NOW I am MUCH quicker to recognize when I am going down the path of OLD THINKING and going off in my mind which kept me anxious, fearful, and unhealthy – physically – mentally and emotionally. I NOW can literally catch myself doing it and STOP and within moments. I feel SO alive and SO FREE!! Why can I do this?! – because PIVOT literally ALLOWS YOU to learn for yourself WHY you were making the choices you were making and then walks you through how to make unhealthy choices become HEALTHY ones!!
Thank YOU PIVOT and thank YOU to my PIVOT advocate – she has been amazing, and I feel SO much gratitude we were paired together.
PIVOT work evolves with me
I’ve started to notice how my PIVOT work evolves with me. It’s helping me with more than healing from past trauma. Recently, this process has pushed me to get clear on who I want to be and the kind of life I want to have. Stay stuck or break free. My coach is helping me build the life I want and practice being the person I want to be.
What I have gained most from PIVOT is pure awareness. Before I was floating along. Now I have more awareness of what I am doing in situations, why am I saying the things I say and why I am acting the way I am acting. My coach Kayla has helped me understand where I came from. I am now able to recognize the ways I used to manipulate conversations and now shift into what goal am I trying to reach instead. I am better able to describe how I’m feeling and what I want. The awareness has helped me be more selective and strategic in my language.
I can also hold onto myself in hard moments. I am able to remind myself that others have their storyline and history, so I can offer patience and understanding to why they are responding the way they are.
It’s been a year since I was changing my life at The Glass House. I can honestly say that nothing I’ve ever done to work on “me” has ever produced so many positive, lasting changes in my life. I still look at my “I am MORE than enough” oil painting each morning, and feel like I’m finally in that sweet spot of life knowing that I’ve reached my balance point. In my week at The Glass House, I learned humility, confidence, acceptance and letting go in ways that make me a better man.
People get better at the Glass House. As a therapist, I have sent a number of clients into the care of Lori Jean and her Team at Pivot and they ALL had significant life-changes occur during their stay. And then, when I hit with a very difficult time in my own life, I went as well. My experience was exactly like that of my clients, life-changing.
Life, unfortunately, doesn’t come with a manual. They don’t teach us in our schooling the critical pieces about our lives that would help give us direction. As I entered adulthood, I discovered myself within this hunt constantly in search of something better. I have come to realize, that what I really needed cannot be found outside of myself, but rather from the inside. We can only begin to experience genuine happiness and joy outside of ourselves once we learn to do it from within. Most people spend a lifetime in search of something better … never knowing what that something is, but, nonetheless, searching. Always coming up empty-handed. And usually, projecting the blame onto others or an outside force/situation. I once was that person. Very lost, yet desiring deeply to understand what it all meant … the longing … the thirst for knowledge … the quest, driven by the desire to find the answers. When I found myself dismantled completely to mere rubble … scattered all around struggling to leave a toxic relationship after spending 20+ years of my life relationship hopping … an awakening evolved. Never having a map or a compass to navigate life, never an understanding … just the deep pain, which I was unconscious to prior to the toxic relationship, guiding my every move. Lost, broken, and desperate to find the answers … I made one phone call that ultimately lead me to the most profound understanding and changes I would soon make in my life. Lori Jean Glass, a brilliant, intelligent, insightful, knowledgeable woman full of vibrancy and driven by her passion and deep desire to help give people their life back. The process, which she created, held up a lens for me to look through. Her trained staff helped me tap into my courage and strength to dig deep and embrace my self-worth. They educated me and gave me an understanding for the how’s and the why’s of how I was attaching in relationships to others. And then … she handed me a gift, a blessing … a toolkit to now navigate life with. It changed my life FAR more than I will ever begin to put words to. I came home after doing an intensive with her and her staff and began to rebuild from the ground up. This time, on a foundation that could not be broken … not even in the midst challenging of situations. It isn’t always easy however now I understand what is happening and can pivot. Combined with my faith, which the staff inspired me to deepen, I have learned how to face my most challenging shortcomings and to handle them in my healthy adult and not from my child or adolescent. It will forever be a lifelong process, as life is about understanding and growing. However, today, I now have a compass and a lens that helps me to navigate life, relationships, and the most difficult experiences they hand us. Today, I feel a genuine happiness within … and, I experience joy. I would recommend EVERY person in this world who struggles attaching in relationships to experience the brilliant curriculum Lori Jean developed and The Glass House offers! It will profoundly impact anyone who is ready to make a change.
Stuck In Life
I first participated in this workshop intensive three years ago when it was called Five Sisters Ranch. I felt stuck in my life, and wanted to investigate how I approached relationships, romantic and otherwise. I didn’t really understand what healthy relational attachment style meant, or what was blocking me from having it, but I hoped they had some answers for me. Having done a lot of workshops in the past, and found it hard to keep the momentum going once I got home, what was remarkably different was how practical their approach was. The clear curriculum meant that I came away with actionable tools to integrate into my everyday life. There were real and meaningful new skills to practice every day. I worked hard to integrate this different approach in all my relationships, family, friends and work. I’ve learned how to ask for what I need in a clear way. Many of my old beliefs about myself have been slowly replaced by a clearer happier way of living. It took a lot of practice, so I got the extra support I need by working with a Pivot coach one on one as a follow up and that was the game changer. It was so great to have someone in my corner really helping me move forward and persevere whenever I hit a bump in the road. I still have my workshop binder, albeit a bit dog eared and well used! And, I regularly pull it out to remind myself of old relationship patterns when I can feel things going off track. Its as relevant and useful today as it was when I was at the workshop I’m grateful I found the team. Many of my friends and colleagues have taken the workshops since they liked the changes they saw in me. We have quite a community now to share ideas and experiences with.
I Think Differently
I have spent my entire life, including 3+ decades as a successful professional, thinking that my thinking will bring me everything I want and need in life. After a week at Glass House, I think differently. I am now more connected to my whole self than before, and it feels great. The Glass House staff is an uncommonly caring, warm, and smart group of people, and I am glad I decided to turn my week over to them and the program. There is life before Glass House, and life after Glass House, and they are different things. There is not a person I know who wouldn’t benefit from this wonderful program.
Clear Path Forward
When my marriage of 29 years ended, I felt duped, discouraged, and unsteady. I also had a feeling of relief and a desire to develop a healthier relationship with myself and others. My path to become a “Healthy Adult” was unclear until my friend texted me after her Glass House Intensive. She wrote, “Friend, here you will find healing. Not just for your divorce, for all of it.” Two weeks later I began my new journey with 4 other ladies at the Glass House. My path is now clear. My heart, my mind, my emotions, and my soul are grounded. I am working with my Pivot Advocate and am building a new confident and compassionate life. And the best bonus? A built-in circle of trust with those ladies from the intensive. I am beyond grateful for Lori Jean and the staff at Glass House.
You Won’t Regret It
I had tried so many modalities of therapies, intensives, and “you can heal your life” weekends. With all of the other programs, I left on that “workshop high” ready to face the world and my challenges head on, only to be met with the same triggering scenarios and no real application of how to apply these newly learned skills into my life. This led me feeling disappointed and back in the same old problems, challenges, and patterns. My experience with The Glass House was different. Everything I learned was individualized to me and my challenges. They used curriculum that was easy to use, apply, and understand. After 5 days at the Glass House I left with more knowledge to get into action than I had in over a decade of therapy. When I returned home I was able to apply what I had learned and change the patterns that weren’t serving me. As a result, my life changed! Lori Jean was right, people can—and do—change! I will forever cherish the time I spent at the Glass House. It allowed me to open the door to understanding and loving myself in a way I didn’t know was possible. If you are frustrated in your relationships or find yourself repeating the same behavioral patterns, GET to a Glass House Intensive—you won’t regret it!
Glass House Saved My Life
Before arriving to The Glass House I was in one of the darkest parts of my life. I was dealing with unresolved grief from multiple family member deaths, a marriage on the brink of ruin, a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol and an overall feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. After making arrangements to attend the 5 day intensive I almost didn’t follow through. I am extremely glad I did. The Glass House truly gave me a second chance at life. I walked in an unhealthy and unhappy person with little direction and left with confidence, clarity and invaluable tools to repair not only my relationship with myself but with others in my life. The staff were so understanding, kind and caring. They meet you where you are. The support they showed was overwhelming and never once did I feel as if I was alone in my journey. The Glass House nurtures the mind, body and soul. The location is peaceful with tranquil views overlooking the water. The food is healthy and home-cooked, reenergizing the body and daily yoga calms the mind, body and soul. I learned things about myself I never knew and was able to work through some very difficult road blocks in a safe, warm and caring environment. I can’t thank the staff enough for doing all that they do. My time at The Glass House truly saved my life.
Far Exceeded Expectations
I came to the Glass House having never before experienced any intensives. I had no idea what to expect other than what my referring friend had to say. The small group size and gorgeous, intimate setting was what first struck me. Nestled upon a hill overlooking the harbor, The Glass House far exceeded my expectations. I greatly appreciated the transparency and reciprocity of Lori Lean, Alicia and the other lovely staff at The Glass House. The fact that every Advocate had, themselves, been through the PIVOT process made me feel less vulnerable, met with more understanding and wisdom. The comprehensive curriculum was accessible, well-organized, and holistic. Yoga with Deb, paired with teachings from Ekhart Tolle surrounding Pain Bodies was particularly resonant to me, as it rounded-out the intensive spiritually. I walked away from the Glass House with my PIVOT binder and an open heart, ready to put my new understanding of boundaries and expectations to practice. In the weeks following my time at The Glass House, I have been able to apply key touch-points in the PIVOT process with relative ease. I didn’t read LJ’s book until I came to the Glass House, but it is one I have recommended to many friends since. PIVOT has the power to transform the future of relationship psychology.
It’s hard to put into words how happy I am that I found this workshop intensive. I struggled finding the right therapist, the right support system, and recovery program, but immediately after my first session I finally felt like I was being seen and heard and understood. I struggled with relationships – getting out of ones that did not serve me and knowing what I truly wanted and needed. After doing an intensive at the Glass House, I was assigned to my PIVOT advocate who has helped me through one of the hardest times of my life. She has taught me so much about myself and given me tools to use for a lifetime. I can feel the change within myself and the way I approach all of my relationships because of the curriculum. I never want to miss a session and genuinely enjoy the work. It’s unlike any curriculum I’ve experienced and it should be taught to everyone who wants to keep growing and evolving. I’ve recommended it to close friends and friends in recovery and their lives are changed as well.
I am very grateful for my time at the Glass House. It truly is a sanctuary for healing and growth. The staff is professional and knowledgeable while being accessible and loving which was a beautiful formula in which to feel safe and facilitate transformation. My friends are noticing the difference in me since I have been back. I truly feel like myself again. Thank you from the bottom of my soul.
Shift in Perception
I own and operate a sober living home for women and have referred several clients that are struggling with codependency and love addiction issues that are stunting their forward motion in getting traction in their sobriety.
What I found in myself and in my returning clients was a shift in perception from this experience. It is a beautifully designed program run by beautiful women.
I have a deeper understanding of who I am
Where do I even start? I went to The Glass House because I knew that despite all the work I had been doing in therapy and different 12 step programs that something was missing. I had a lovely person suggest I go to The Glass House and I will forever be grateful to that person for guiding me here. Before coming to The Glass House, I knew I had an anxious attachment style, was a “love” fantasy addict, and knew I had major trust issues. I knew a lot about myself already, but I didn’t know how to manage the knowledge or how to properly repair all these different parts of self. Now I do.
Since leaving The Glass House I have a deeper understanding of who I am. I no longer believe I am a “love” addict, I still attend 12 step programs that deal with this kind of behavior but now I know I am not addicted to love, I am addicted to the fear, anxiety, and adrenalin that runs through my body when I am triggered and not coming from my healthy adult. The Glass House has given me a better understanding of what it means to not only love someone else but how to love myself. How am I doing that? Well, I am learning to practice boundaries, repairs, and simply living a life that is more drama free!
I am not perfect at applying all I have learned but I get to be ok today with not being perfect. I am starting to understand the meaning behind practice over perfection. As I learn to expect less perfection of myself, I also learn to expect less perfection of others and love them as they are. Having a Pivot coach like Deb has done wonders for my life. I am grateful that I picked up coaching right away once I left The Glass House. Coaching has helped keep me accountable and also helping me apply all the tools I learned into my daily life. I am so grateful for Deb!
If you are someone like me who gets triggered and is like “WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON??” I highly suggest coming here. I used to not know why something as simple as someone eating without me would send me into a spiral and now, I do! It takes practice and The Glass House gives us the tools to show up as Healthy Adults and how to love ourselves and others. Thank you LJ, Deb, Rose Mary, Gabby, and all the Pivot coaches for the great work you do! Helping us all become healthy adults, even if it’s 75% of the time.
The Most Significant Pivot Turn of My Life!
I arrived in despair to The Glass House where I found a safe place to repair. My mind pivoted from left to right and right to left, as I circled around myself. What is the value of a healthy balanced life? Freeing, lifting, creating, connecting, breathing, building, reworking! Priceless!! The Glass House produced a safe space where I was reminded that I Stand Powerfully!! The staff there has done the work ~ their own true life work, granting those willing, the ability to find the openings in their minds and fill in the gaps. The Glass House is nestled in a spectacular canyon with breath-taking views, that ease you into the experience from the moment you walk in the door. From plunging to soaring in a matter of days, is what happened to me. I can’t wait for what my future holds! And I can’t wait to come back to The Glass House!
Relational Circle Boundaries have given me a simple and practical system to categorize all my relationships
At the PIVOT Glass House retreat, learning Lori Jean’s Relational Circle Boundaries transformed the way I look at relationships. My “inner circle,” according to Lori Jean, is sacred. This is the place reserved for people who have proven themselves to be trustworthy and capable of reciprocating my love. The millennial behind the counter who schmeared my bagel with an extra layer of tofu cream cheese isn’t my new trusted confidant. She is an acquaintance until I determine otherwise. PIVOT’s Relational Circle Boundaries has given me a simple and practical system to categorize all my relationships from romantic partners to business colleagues. It has already made a huge difference in my life!
What I liked most about the PIVOT Glass House Retreat is that the material initially looked so simple, yet it was actually extremely deep and complex. There was much more to the content than I imagined, and I left with new insights and tools that are already helping me move forward on my journey.
CHANGED my life.
The Glass House CHANGED my life. 3 years ago I was an absolute mess. Everything seemed to be wrong and I could not figure out how to get out of the pit I was in. Every relationship I had seemed to crumble. I was out of control. A wonderful woman named Cindy referred me to The Glass House and got me in touch with LJ. At that moment I knew change was coming. Didn’t know how much though. The Pivot team rocked my world! They helped me to find myself and know my worth. They taught me how to have healthy boundaries with all people in my life short term or long term. LJ has put together the best tool box you could ever have! These tools make you unstoppable when you use them and keep them in your back pocket. I also had the amazing opportunity to go through Healthy Adult 2.0. This was truly another blessing from God. This helped me to see how far I’ve come from 3 years ago. I love myself today more than I ever have and that is all thanks to LJ and the Pivot Tribe. Thank you for all your love and support and helping me see life through a much clearer lens.
I feel like a new person.
My week at The Glass House truly changed my life. Since I’ve been home, I have been more self aware and more self confident. I’ve been able to process my emotions and feelings in a healthier way. And I’ve been able to move towards repairs whenever I’m triggered. I feel like a new person, and I love it!
I am a person who has been in therapy and 12-step programs most of my life. I have “done the work” ad nauseam. It is very rare that I’m able to connect with a system that can really give me a new and important experience. The setting, staff, and protocols all created utmost safety and compassion – I was happily surprised by all of the practical and professional aspects. In the work, the biggest take-away for me was about moving into real-time corrections. I’ve long been aware of my pain and my trauma sources, but at The Glass House, I learned how to recognize the development origins, recognize the present-day activation, and get action skills to quickly bring my Healthy Adult forward. It’s important to honor the past parts of myself and care for them, but they can’t drive the car. I needed to learn how to pull my Healthy Adult into the driver’s seat to get the overall wellness I was looking for. Recognizing and expressing trauma isn’t enough – I needed to be able to learn how to course-correct in real time and change the patterns that my think-feel-do misalignment had created. I am incredibly grateful to the entire team and to my co-participants for a beautiful experience.
Far exceeded my expectations
It was my first intensive and far exceeded my expectations. I learned so much about myself and my patterns. I would recommend exploring and learning the PIVOT process to anyone who wants to do the work.
It has taught me to understand myself and learn to start to love myself
It has taught me to understand myself and learn to start to love myself. The PIVOT curriculum is the only work I’ve done that makes sense to me. I am an experiential learner, so for the first time I understood the work, and also felt understood doing the work. I’ve been inspired to continue to do the work, and begin the training so that I can someday help another person who is struggling.
I was able to get in touch with parts of myself long buried
It’s hard to put into words what I experienced at the in-person intensive. Between education in the PIVOT approach and the experiential sessions with Lori Jean and the PIVOT staff, I was able to get in touch with parts of myself long buried and learn to understand and appreciate ALL of me in a loving and carefully curated environment. The expertise, commitment and care of all of the facilitators created a safe space to explore those areas in my life that have been hard for me to face. Lori Jean and her staff have created a truly unique approach. I found it to be a novel and effective process.
Without a doubt I found what I was searching for, and much more
Full disclosure, before attending The Glass House I was already seeing a conventional therapist. I was raised in an environment where therapy was looked at in a negative light, and it was not a way to solve problems or cope with them. My experience with a conventional therapist was a great start and helped build a foundation for what came next. Although I was receiving some benefits, I felt I needed more, that there was something missing, and then I found the Glass House retreat.
At the Glass house, we did multiple therapy styles, including taking a deep dive into your mind exploring the “parts of self” you are likely unaware of. I can say without a doubt I found what I was searching for, and much more. I find myself to be an “all or nothing” kind of person, so the 5-day intensive Glass House experience was the perfect choice, and well worth it. The house is beautiful with an amazing view, paired with exceptional food tailored to your nutritional needs, with any food allergies considered. The coaches are paired with each person based on their individual needs. Throughout this experience, I was forming bonds with coaches, housemates, and even myself. I am currently still working with the same coach who I met during my experience at the Glass House on a weekly basis, getting a deeper understanding of myself in the whole perspective. To everyone reading this I encourage you to take the first step and enjoy the journey ahead.
I truly feel transformed after that 5-day retreat
I tell other people’s stories for a living, through a podcast that I run with authors and through the interviews I run for leading brands. What I didn’t realize until I attended a Glass House retreat was that the story I really needed to uncork was my own.
Over five days at The Glass House, I reconnected with my inner child, rediscovered my teenage self, and identified the repairs I needed to make so I could become a healthy adult. I cried hard, laughed harder, now know what my non-negotiables are for my marital relationship.
Most importantly, while I have felt unseen for most of my life, I embrace that I now truly am the writer of my own story. In short, I matter. Believing this has helped me show up differently in the relationship I have with my spouse, my friends and family, my clients, and myself.
Words cannot express the gratitude I feel for the Pivot team as well as for the other men I spent the week with. I truly feel transformed after that 5-day retreat—much more so than after being in individual therapy for over two years.
The Pivot Team has put an amazing program together
From the time of my arrival to such a beautiful and picturesque home to my departure, everything was so organized and clearly well thought out. The modalities, staff, and processes – it was simply amazing!! While I consider myself to be aware and intentional about nurturing my mental and emotional health – there is simply no way I could have accomplished what happened there on my own.
The care, professionalism, knowledge, skills, and compassion that you and the staff possess is world class. Seriously! I believe each one of you there on staff are exactly where you should be doing the work in which you are so gifted. Your passion for helping people is very evident.
The work we did together blessed me with epiphanies and knowledge that I can now use in practical ways to improve my life and those around me. I do want to give special recognition to one of the Pivot coaches there – Kelley Hattox. I can’t say enough about the impact she has had in my life. Thank you, Kelley, for being you! Your wisdom and concern for my well-being are so appreciated.
In closing Lori Jean, I want you to know how thankful I am all that you did for me and encourage you to keep fighting the good fight. The Pivot Team changes lives and makes the world a better place. May you and the staff always be strengthened with the conviction that we do not have to live in emotional pain and suffering and that there is hope found in Pivot.
Clarity I was searching for
A five day program that created the clarity I was searching for. I am now aware of my inner child & teen behaviors playing out in my adult life that has created both personal & relationship dynamics that leave me exhausted & unfulfilled. I am forever grateful to have learned how to get myself into my healthy adult! The one on one sessions combined with group sessions was a perfect blend to learn & process this new information. Infinite thank you to Lori for creating this program & all the staff for your loving support each day.
The Level One training was a life-changing personal experience where I had the opportunity to embody the curriculum and really understand the PIVOT process. It was the most profound growth work I’ve done in the past twenty years.
I’ve been a Life Coach for over fifteen years and the Level Two training and ongoing
supervision has really enhanced my coaching ability. The curriculum is easy to
follow and the quick results I’ve been able to witness in my clients have been
Through the many years I’ve been working with and for Lori Jean I’ve come to deeply respect her breadth of knowledge, experience and intuition around trauma and attachment wounds. She created and continues to develop the PIVOT curriculum to help shift people into healing from their outmoded survival patterns into healthy relational adult behaviors. The PIVOT curriculum supports individuation of the parts of self that are stuck in the attachment traumas of our childhood, teen and adult lives. Lori Jean has the rare ability to say what needs to be said with a grace and kindness that provides a safe space for clients’ vulnerability; thus opening their self perception enabling them to make healthier choices and heal over time. She has created revolutionary tools that are individualized by each client supporting their path toward more relational fulfilling lives. This journey with Lori Jean in supporting clients through the PIVOT curriculum also continues to enrich my relational life on a daily basis. I am ever grateful for Lori Jean’s dedication to refining her knowledge and application in relational healing. Her work is truly a gift to the maturing of humanity.
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