This post was updated on Nov 29, 2022
Wanting to become a better person and partner and improve your relationship is an excellent way to show your partner how much you care about them and that you’re willing to work on your behavior. Maybe you were finding it difficult to control your emotions or, quite the opposite, you’ve become emotionally distant from your partner.
Perhaps there has been dishonesty in the relationship on your part, which has caused your partner to become a more private person toward you. The reasons for wanting to become a better partner are many, and it is great you’re trying.
Even if you’re not managing to find the right way on your own, you can always try some healthy relationship workshop activities to modify your behavior. However, let’s first see what you can do.
What Does It Mean To Become A Better Person?
Becoming a better person is a process that sounds a bit strange, as if suggesting you’re bad to begin with, and that there are serious personality changes you have to undergo in order to improve yourself.
However, you first have to be free of this misconception in order to start becoming a “better” person. The more adequate expression could be a better version of yourself. First, you have to be aware that:
- You are not striving to be perfect, as such a thing doesn’t exist.
- It’s not about you being bad or wrong, and you’re not a problem that needs to be fixed.
Being A Better Version Of Yourself
Becoming an improved version of yourself means that you become aware of some of your characteristics that you might be unwittingly expressing poorly, which reflects on both your loved ones and yourself.
Therefore, if you’re looking to learn what becoming a better person actually means, it entails the following:
- Being honest with yourself and allowing yourself to detect in which areas of your life you could use a little help.
- Eliminating all the negative thoughts that might be holding you back from being the best you you can be.
- Allowing yourself to become more open to new ways of thinking, and new life experiences.
So, it is not about changing the “bad” aspects of your personality, life, or way of thinking, but rather becoming a more open individual who is allowing themselves plenty of room for personal growth.
Do People Really Change?
You can frequently hear about how nobody ever actually changes, and how people retain their prominent personality characteristics no matter what. However, it is not the person that is unable to change, but rather the environment’s perception of that person. Sometimes, no matter how much individuals try to modify their behavior, those around them tend to disbelieve their efforts as genuine.
And that is the single biggest problem with the age-old question of whether or not a person ever really changes. The scrutiny of the environment and its unwillingness to accept a person who is doing their hardest to become a better version of themselves is what ultimately creates the climate of people remaining the same no matter how much their behavior changes.
However, it is entirely possible for individuals to modify their behavior in a positive way and become what they were always hoping they would. It is usually to the rest of the people in their environment to accept the change and provide the invaluable support that will show their efforts are recognized and respected.
What Are The Qualities Of A Good Partner?
Every person is looking for different personality traits in their romantic partners, so it is not possible to provide a list of the most important qualities every partner should possess. But, there are some qualities people most frequently look for when thinking about entering a romantic relationship.
It is worth noting, however, that this is a highly individual matter and that different people will find different characteristics more important than others. Nonetheless, here are several traits that people tend to deem most important in their romantic counterparts:
An open partner is one that is able to share their thoughts and feelings and is willing to be as open as possible with their partners.
Honesty is a very important trait, as it allows partners to build trust among each other.
Many people highly value their partner’s respect, as it makes them feel equal in a relationship.
People feel empathy is important because that allows them to be heard and understood by their partner.
It is very important for both partners to be affectionately connected on both a physical and emotional level.
It is very important for both partners to be able to communicate well in a relationship, as good communication is vital for resolving potential problems.
Patience is also among the desirable traits people look for in a partner, as it allows for a more loving and caring relationship.
How Can I Be A Better Partner In My Relationship?
Communicate openly and honestly with your partner and see what they find the most important, in order to be able to provide them with the things they need. However, there are some things you can do in an effort to become a better partner in your relationship:
- Show more appreciation for your partner.
- Do a nice thing for your partner every day.
- Don’t try to be right all the time.
- Give your partner the attention they deserve.
- Set more quality time aside for your partner.
- Give your partner support in following their dreams.
- Try to rekindle the romantic flame by going on dates.
- Keep an open mind and don’t overreact.
- Don’t judge your partner, but accept them for who they are.
- Listen openly to what your partner is trying to say.
Join A PIVOT Couple Relationship Management Workshop & Start Working On Your Relationship
It’s admirable wanting to become a better person and a better partner for your significant other and improve your relationship. However, sometimes, you might not be sure of exactly what to do and how to change your behavior towards your partner.
Turning to experienced relationship advocates at PIVOT can really help you find what you were looking for. We offer a variety of programs that will help you become a better partner and give your loved one the care they deserve.
We organize specialized retreats and workshops for struggling couples that contain many healthy relationship activities for you to try, as well as individual coaching alongside a qualified team of relationship advocates. We are here to help you become a better version of yourself. Reach out to PIVOT today!